A Birthmother’s Reflection: Ashley

I was 17 the first time I got pregnant. Everything happened so fast! Because my brother and I were adopted I knew right away I wanted to find an adoption agency. My mom looked in the phone book and we called Adoption Associates. I really liked them because I could choose the family for my baby, and I could decide how open I wanted everything [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Ashley 2017-06-12T17:39:11+00:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Deanna

I was 15 when I became pregnant. I was so confused and I didn’t know if I could give my child everything she needed. I was sure, however, that I was not going to give my child to someone I did not know. Eight months went by and I was still the only one that knew about my unplanned pregnancy. I didn’t get very big, [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Deanna 2017-06-12T17:39:21+00:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Susan

At seventeen years old, I thought I owned the world. I was living each day as if nothing bad could ever happen and everything in my perfect bubble of a life would remain perfect. The first devastating blow came when my boyfriend of seven months passed away. I was so distraught that one month later I thought running into the arms of another man would [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Susan 2017-06-12T17:41:56+00:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Toraleen

At the age of 39, I faced an unplanned pregnancy from a one night stand. I considered abortion several times, but could not actually go to the clinic. When I was five months pregnant, I knew that I needed to make another plan. I talked to a couple of close friends and told them that I was thinking about adoption. I have three children already. [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Toraleen 2017-06-12T17:42:03+00:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Geanetta

My decision to plan adoption for my baby was the most difficult decision of my life. Already having three children at home and unexpectedly becoming a single parent, I knew that I would not be able to support a fourth child. I had not only just lost my significant other, but I was also laid off from my job of five years. My job was [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Geanetta 2017-06-12T17:42:07+00:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Kelly

My adoption story is complex. I faced my unplanned pregnancy when I was in the middle of a divorce. My ex-husband and I had been separated for quite awhile. I already had a two and a half year old daughter and I knew that there was no way that I could raise another child on my own. During the short time we were together, I [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Kelly 2017-06-12T17:42:13+00:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Crystal

I was 24 years old when I found out I was pregnant and I already had a 13 month old daughter at home. I had been separated from my husband for eight months at the time I got pregnant. He was not the father of the baby. Due to one poor choice that I later regretted, I did not know who the birth father was. [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Crystal 2017-06-12T17:42:17+00:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Sabrina

I had only been going out with the birth father for a couple of months when I discovered I was pregnant. At the time, I was twenty-five and already the mother of two children, one of which has special needs. I knew that I was not financially or emotionally able or ready to parent another child, and I began to wonder what my other children [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Sabrina 2017-06-12T17:42:22+00:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Connie

I was forty-two years old when I found out I was pregnant. Divorced with four children, I was living paycheck to paycheck with my teenage daughter in a small two bedroom apartment. I had a low paying job and no health insurance. When I took an at-home pregnancy test and it came out positive, I thought it had to be wrong. The next day I [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Connie 2017-06-12T17:42:27+00:00

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Kristina

I chose adoption for my daughters when I was twenty-three. I was raised by a single mother who was an alcoholic. She fancied abusive relationships, and moving was like breathing for us. She died in a car accident when I was seventeen; the drunk driver that killed her was herself. With no family to speak of, I soon was headed in the same direction. To [...]

A Birthmother’s Reflection: Kristina 2017-06-12T17:42:33+00:00